I can’t decide if it would be better to end things and find a woman who is comfortable with who she is or to be with this woman and hope I can help her feel more comfortable being out. Since this woman couldn’t give you a firm answer on whether being discreet was short-term, you can assume it’s probably “as long as I can get away with.” If you keep seeing her, you may chafe at her limitations.
There’s no guarantee that dating her will give you influence to help her feel more comfortable being out.
After being single for a while I just started seeing a new woman, well imagine my surprise when she told me after a few dates that she does not want to be public about where things are going.
I wasn’t too sure what she meant so we talked about it and she is afraid of what could happen with her professional life if people realize she is gay and her family is traditional so she has a sort of don’t ask don’t tell policy with them.
I told her I needed to think about it, I really like this girl but can I change her mind on this?
I came out 12 years ago and it was a struggle at times but I know I am stronger for being a lesbian and I wish my new girl could feel it too. Dating someone who is not willing to be visibly lesbian puts you back in the closet a little bit.
Literally, she claims she “forgot to pack it” the last time she came to see me, even though I reminded her to take it, and when I’ve gone to see her, she claimed she was only in the mood to do oral one time and another time said she wanted us to touch one another at the same time.
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When she’s not writing (which is most of the time) she’s probably cooking, traveling, or exploring the many, many cute towns, craft breweries, and hiking trails that keep the Hudson Valley rad.
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