Dating rituals in france
This is how the French are groomed to think about love from an early age: not in the absolutes of total love or utter rejection, but in nuances and a range of possibilities.It dawned on me at that moment that while we Americans are groomed to seek happy endings and closure, the French are more comfortable with emotional subtleties and ambiguity.Everyone has romantic notions about dating in Paris. In movies, books, magazine articles, on Pinterest boards, blogs and Instagrams throughout the world, people tend to see the city through a very rosy, amourous lens.
Once two people kiss while sober (French teenagers drink a lot, as it’s legal), they can already consider the other one as their boyfriend/girlfriend, and assume the relationship is going to be exclusive — there’s no need to define it.
My first reaction was to laugh at him because it seemed so absurd that someone (let alone a cashier my age with whom I had only spoken three words) was asking me on a date.
You will never, in France, find a guy you don’t know show any romantic interest in you if you have not been introduced by a mutual friend.
Whether you’re currently seeing a Frenchman, or have one in mind (you sly girl), you may start finding you have more and more miscommunications as time goes on.
Even if your man comes from a country associated with romance and love, that doesn’t mean he loves learning about other dating cultures.