Rubber band dating
I speak to people who are in healthy relationships all the time and not one of these people is caught up in some guys ‘relationship menstrual cycle’!Plentyoffish dating forums are a place to meet singles and get dating advice or share dating experiences etc. "A rubber band is the perfect metaphor to understand the male intimacy cycle," he says. Gray uses the metaphor of a rubber band to explain a man’s threshold of emotional intimacy.to date he has been attentive and seemingly interested and consistent.In every woman’s dating experience, there will always be a guy whom she can call, “The One Who Pulled Away.” These are guys who, after a series of candle light dinner dates and safe sex sessions, will pull away from a blossoming relationship without even giving the women they dated a decent explanation.
it's not personal or a reflection on the relationship or how he feels about me FYI: we have been communicating for 6 weeks, seeing each other for a month and approx half a doz dates in that time incl x2 sleep overs, no exclusivity talk (i am still dating and assume he is too but we have not discussed this).
This is not planet of the apes where we have to creep around the species with a penis and the problem with this idea that men have a cycle of pushing and pulling and blowing hot and cold (you can see where I am going with this…) is that it sends a message to millions of women that this is what they should expect in all relationships.
What John Gray is also describing are men who are habitually emotionally emotionally unavailable, habitually users, habitually coming back to roost when they need an ego stroke, a shag, or a shoulder to lean on, and who manage down the relationship and the woman’s expectations so that they can get their needs met without meeting the needs of the woman.
assuming you're familiar with the idea of the male intimacy cycle/rubber band theory ref: am wondering what people think of how/when this applies to a new relationship.
I have been seeing a guy for just over a month and slept together a few days ago after which we spent a day together (he wanted to) playing games, eating and generally hanging out.