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They are people — businesspeople with books, keynotes, and openings in their consulting practice to peddle.
“It’s all smoke and mirrors,” my friend Cherise, a ghostwriter for a number of these bestselling gurus, told me the following week over tea, her Mission District apartment stuffed with piles of self-help books, CDs, and videos.
Basic criteria should mean that a partner should behave in a caring, honest, trustworthy manner.
This means that if he can’t behave in the basic ways that enable him to earn your trust, such as calling when he says he will, being emotionally available, being faithful, being unattached to someone else, treating you with respect and behaving with integrity, then he shouldn’t be trusted and he is below standard.
I traveled around the country telling strangers how to balance their workloads and better their lives—until I learned the hard way that the people offering to solve your problems are often the ones who need help the most.
This is what I was thinking as I lingered 20 rows back, waiting for Bree, my boss, to finish huddling with Deepak onstage about the presentation he would give that evening.
Bree ran the San Francisco chapter of The Learning Annex, that mainstay of adult education courses for the personal-growth set.
This was the mid-nineties, when people still called the New Age movement “the New Age movement.” Deepak was our big get that season. I just found it surprising that moments before the dry run now underway, this beacon of enlightenment, a man supposedly above the trivialities of ego and self-doubt, had asked Bree if the khakis he was wearing made him look fat.